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Episode 3: Self-less Healing
Today's topic is about healing through being selfless. This is something that I cannot help but have expertise in. We can help ourselves as we help others and heal from past traumas. Some may not understand this concept, but I'm here to explain. Off top you may thinking to yourself. " What exactly does being selfless mean?" The dictionary define it as being concerned more with the needs and wishes of others than with one's own; unselfish. Basically just helping someone and within\ this process, you're able to heal yourself. One thing I would say is to keep in mind that this process isn't designed for you to just assist and aide any ole person, like that one guy you've been seeing that always promises to pay you back when he gets on his feet or the toxic friend that is always in need that indulges in insanity. On this very podcast I did a whole entire episode regarding insanity. But this is a different way of being of use to someone without being used and it helps you get over the past hurt or pain along with helping you cope with a situation.
So I will use myself as an example and my own personal experience. I was raised by my grandparents which was no walk in the park growing up. They were not only strict, but it was like walking on eggshells, mainly from the energy my grandad exudes and my grandma felt she had to go along with it. well, there came a point in time when I got older, I suffered depression due to name calling, my confidence level not being built, as parents child instill in their children and alt of self doubt. To this day my grandad is a mean spirited person with never a kind word to say. During my childhood
I was called stupid, fat, ugly and even as an adult he still calls me names. the only way he can communicate is by name calling.
a whole nother episode. On top of going thru this at home, I was bullied at school, called names, and made fun of for being different. It's a wonder i have even overcome all of this.
Somewhere throughout the relationship with my grandma she began to change. this was after moving out and becoming my own person. There was a lot of work to be done in mending this relationship, but it was getting better. My grandmother has fallen ill and I have taken the role of being there to being her caretaker. She and I share laughs, conversations about her life and why things were that way. My grandma had been mentally, verbally and physically abused for her entire life. She married at 17, so she was a child in a sense and was with a man who was much older that lied about his age. He was very mean and cold towards her, having affairs along with children outside the marriage. He was not good to her, even now he is a evil person. so I began to understand why never spoke up, due to fear.
Growing up and going through relationships with men taught me how to handle shit. I had a clear definitive line that I would never allow any man to cross just by seeing how she was treated. now a grown ass woman, I became her advocate. there wasn't shit he could do to any of us because we were not longer children and he got dealt with anytime he tried to disrespect her in front of us. That made her feel more secure that her girls stand up for her, but it in a away helped her stand up for herself
she apologized for everything and we have grown she allowed to happen to us and i was able to move forward. I take care of her and am there whenever she needs me at the drop of a hat. there is nothing I wouldn't do for her. the lessons I learned from dysfunction allow me to help other girls and women build their confidence, to not allow them to be mistreated or disrespected. Even for a few guys out there who think it's OK for a woman to belittle them, I give advice and let them know they're not a doormat or a container for someone's ill feelings. We are all people who deserve love, kindness and respect. So when I am helping someone, it helps to heal my inner child in the process. Long ago I discovered that my calling was to nurture and this is what I intend on doing for the rest of my existence.Poetically Endowed Podcast is supported by this blog
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